Proverbs 12:26 – “The righteous should choose his friends carefully, for the way of the wicked leads them astray.” NKJV
We have all heard and possible used the old proverb, “birds of a feather flock together.” Usually we were identifying some negative trait or character in so speaking but it works on both sides of the coin. Remember in Amos 3 we read the question, “How can two walk together unless they are agreed.” If there is no like-mindedness or a kindred spirit there is little basis for fellowship or friendship that is lasting and enduring.
Through years of ministry in counseling or discussing their desire to marry a particular young man a young lass would tell me, “But I can change him for good.” But we should be reminded of Paul’s words in both Galatians 5 and 1 Corinthians 5 regarding leaven and how it permeates through the entire batch corrupting it. I know that there are young women and young men who fell in love with someone not a Christian and even corrupt or abusive and were convinced they could change them for God and good and some realized that dream. However, for every one that die there are hundreds that found it worked in reverse and they, like Solomon were the one corrupted or change. This is true in social relationship, business relationships, church relationships and political relationships. In short, all of life!
Paul instructed in 1 Corinthians 15:33 – “Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good morals.” NASU Understand I am not saying have no association with someone who is lost or even corrupt. What I am saying is do not give your heart to them as a suitor, companion or associate. Leaven leavens! We read in Proverbs 22:24-25 – “Make no friendship with a man given to anger, nor go with a wrathful man, lest you learn his ways and entangle yourself with a snare.” That is sound advice and should be a part of our decision making with regard to our relationships.
We also read in Proverbs 25:26 – “A righteous man who falters before the wicked is like a murky spring and a polluted well.” NKJV One thing I have observed and know is that if we compromise ourselves via running with crowd or flying with the flock we will find it difficult to resist the temptations that accompany that crowd. Take to heart the words of the psalmist in Psalms 1:1-3 – “How blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked, nor stand in the path of sinners, nor sit in the seat of scoffers! 2 But his delight is in the law of the LORD, and in His law he meditates day and night. 3 He will be like a tree firmly planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in its season and its leaf does not wither; and in whatever he does, he prospers.” NASU
Paul gives us a means whereby we can test relationships in Philippians 4:8 – “Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things.” NASU A good guide is: “truth, honor, and right, pure, lovely and good report.” I suggest considering the counsel of our Lord in Matthew 6 where He spoke of the eye (what you watch with longing) is the lamp of the body and if the eye is full of darkness the body will be as well. We cannot serve two masters and thus the reason for Paul’s warnings of our relationships in life.
If you want to soar with the eagles you can’t go around waddling with the ducks or wallowing with the swine. Come out from the world and unto the Lord! There is abundant life to be lived! God bless you is my prayer!