Proverbs 27:6 – “Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.” NKJV
We have asked the questions, “Are you Consistent?” and “Are You Self-Controlled?” Now let’s ask the third question and see where the Lord will take us in the examination of that issue regarding BLIND SPOTS in our lives.
- DO YOU THINK INDEPENTLY?
Psalm 1:1 declares, “How blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked, nor stand in the path of sinners, nor sit in the seat of the scornful…” People who study such matters regarding thinking and independent thinking tell us that the real key as to whether a person ‘conforms’ to the pressures of the group or ‘resists’ such pressure is whether it comes from “inner personal convictions” or from “external mores of his/her peer group.”
Any individual who has a strong and healthy ‘self-image’ is capable of resisting incredible peer pressure when the group is engaging in behavior that is contrary to his/her personal convictions and desires. That does not mean they become immediate outcasts from the group but have the ability to resist. The person with the ‘inner strength’ to say NO when he/she senses the need is often the one seen by the group as a potential or actual leader.
There are basically two groups who do not think for themselves. The Classic Conformist and the Classic Non-Conformist. Some people live in what can only be called a “convoy mentality” where they go with the flow and follow the crowd. That can be and often is incredibly dangerous. Psalm 1 gives a perfect portrayal of those who are externally controlled. There are three words in the Psalm that we need to consider: Walk, Stand, and Sit. I believe they reveal the progression away from godly principles that we need to be aware of.
WALKING, as viewed by the Psalmist is a deliberate choice. We choose to allow the ungodly to influence us or we reject that influence. It is a choice! We do not have to Walk in or be overly influenced by their counsel. We do not have to stand or be identified with their ideology, actions, or purposes. We do not have to sit or become one of them. It is a choice and the Holy Spirit will enable us to resist if we ask Him.
Let me offer this and hope that it resonates with you. Once we have broken the barrier of walking with them, it is easier to feel comfortable standing with them. Standing denotes an attitude of accepting or at least condoning their values. This standing is a deliberate choice of our will. The behavior that finally results in worldly involvement surfaces when we sit down to relax and engage as full members of the group. What God wants for His children is INDEPENDENCE from the influence of all that does not glorify Him. He wants and demands an absolute dependence upon Himself and has promised to go with us and never leave us. We will not be forsaken.
There are a number of other questions that might help identify ‘blind spots’ or potential ‘blind spots’ in our lives that I will offer but not go into detail. Consider these:
Can you handle negative criticism? Do you use disappointments creatively? Can you discipline without overly demonstrating a show of authority? Are you a peacemaker? Can you handle difficult situations? Are you a motivator? Can you accept disagreement objectively? Do you maintain long-term friendships? Do you depend on approval from others? Those are just a few and certainly not an exhaustive list of questions we might ask.
God wants us to be more than conquerors and overcomers through Him and desires to enable us to develop mentally, emotionally, and spiritually so that we become Mature Believers manifesting Him to the World powerfully.
God bless you as you go through this day in Him!